Trapped in the Friendzone

by Sam Ackels

The dreaded “friend zone.” This word is like a curse for many guys. I guarantee every guy has been friend zoned at some point in their lives. If you haven’t, you are extremely lucky and should be awarded. Friend zoning even happens to some unlucky girls as well, all through it significantly happens to more guys. Before I can explain more, I must properly define the friend zone. According to the Oxford Dictionary, the friend zone is “a situation in which a friendship exists between two people, one of whom has an unrequited romantic or sexual interest in the other." [1]. This can be extremely stressful for some people and may leave them extremely depressed. Let's face it, we've all been turned down by someone we thought was the one for us. It feels horrible and no one enjoys it. I have actually been turned down by every single girl I have been interested in. I have never even kissed a girl. Because of my previous experiences, my self confidence has completely depleted. I am now extremely reserved and shy when talking to a girl I am interested in. I greatly fear rejection because of my past experiences with girls. I do not know why I get consistently rejected by girls, but at this point I just do not really care anymore. I have just decided to give up on girls because something is obviously going wrong every time I talk to a girl. It is also commonly known that it is impossible to escape once you have been friend zoned. This is mainly due to the guys fault of doing many things such as trying to buy their way into a relationship, trying to show that they are a dominant manly-man, or as I am extremely guilty of, being too nice [2]. 

As stressed out as I have been about being friend zoned, I realize that I am not entitled to sex or a relationship. No one is. This is something that you have to work out on your own. I may have had bad experiences with every girl I've ever been interested in, but I have to keep trying if I want to get anywhere.  I do not know how long it will take to find a girl who will not reject me. It is very annoying but hopefully the next girl I'll talk to won't reject me. My chances can only go up with every rejection I receive. Being friend zoned is not a fun experience and I don't wish it on anyone.

References

[1] - Oxford Dictionary, friend zone, Accessed Jan. 22, 2014,

[2] -  Dr. Alex Benzer (April 2, 2009).